How Much Realism is Too Much?

YouTube is lousy with videos showing plain details about the efficacy of armor and steel weapons. Is it better to continually try to match your game up with reality, or should a lot of gaming concepts get a pass? Endurance rules, for example, are often abused but if it gets a pass, then is that okay? As a DM I recently had to explain why a character carrying a 2-handed sword could also climb a rope. I was able to do that without just saying, "Because she can," but does it matter? I don't mind that some things get a pass. It is the people that want to break the system that I am concerned with. When their focus turns away from role-playing, turns away from personal story-telling, turns away from the interests of their fellow players, in order to brake game mechanics, I become concerned.
Reality is great as a guide, but it can get in the way of a smooth flowing game.

Some Awesome Reality

I. Have. The. Power.

Recently one of my players disclosed that I, as DM, have the power to destroy the party of characters at my whim. His words taken from the conversation were, "...send in a few more dragons,'Cuz that's the kind of power you wield."

I guess he's right. I could arbitrarily destroy the party. Every week, the moment after my players make new characters... Their dead.

I suggest that I don't really have that power. It's like having power to nuke the entire world. Then what? If you want to have a game, then you can't use that power. If you want to keep your players, and want to have a growing, positive experience, then start with respect. Their characters are an artistic expression. Let them pursue their stories. I digress.

Some people (I won't call them players) enjoy having their characters killed by their crap DM in clever new ways. That's not playing. That's idolizing a clever bastard. Do what you want to do, but I hope someday you will respect yourselves and each other better than that.

Afraid? Now what?

Maybe it has something to do with the fact that I ran a Call of Cthulhu game for 14 years. I guess I depict a pretty scary world in my D&D game. I think to some extent it should be scary. This is dangerous work, stopping powerful, evil creatures from doing their worst. More than stopping horrific monsters but killing them. Perhaps with the seriousness of the situation, fear is able to grow.
In any case, the party in my game is tending toward avoiding danger lately. I honestly did not expect this as the party has regularly gained power itself. But, that's not really my concern, is it? Any suggestions to discuss?

Supposed To...

In this week’s game, the party briefly met a powerful dude on the road. I won’t go into detail but let’s just say that the party had every reason to believe that the person was powerful.

The party greeted him warily. The man replied, “I have killed many people today, so leave me alone.”

The party of 7th and 8th level characters did so, giving the man a wide birth. The man wore religious symbols of an unrecognizable faith.

The party went on into a large city and asked around at their various temples to see if anyone recognized the symbol the man wore. One popular, legalistic group, one that follows the sun god Atura, did recognize the symbol. They even recognized the description of the man. The Atura group notified the party that the man was “a killer of innocents,” and that “they should have killed him.”

After our gaming session ended, I had two players tell me that they were supposed to kill the disreputable man. I didn’t quite understand this. Their characters didn’t honor Atura so why were they supposed to do anything?

In my game the players aren’t “supposed” to do story elements that I lay before them. They do or they don’t on their own. There is the potential for death and reward in most things that they decide to do. They are adventurers after all, having chosen to be killers of evil creatures and robbers of graves. What they are “supposed” to do, in order to move “my” story forward, doesn’t enter into it. It’s their story.

Some of My Kit

I have collected and constructed quite a bit of stuff that I use regularly in my game. This is the dice tower I use to publicly display my die rolls:

Here are two very inexpensive cases I got at a super-store, and an expensive case actually made for minis:

My friend Hillary got me this, the most luxury item I own, a symbol of my greatest pride: my dice box. Salivate if you will, but it's mine:

I have posted my travel case before but, it's still awesome:

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Cutting the Snot Out of It

More chopping:

How Often Do You Play?

Serious question: How often is not often enough? Say you play in a weekly D&D game. Sometimes things come up, so let's say your group meets 44 times in the 52-week year to play. That's greater than three sessions per month on average. If a player wants to play, and commits to play, how many sessions a month should he or she play? Is it up to the player? Say a player commits to play but plays only 2 sessions a month on average. Is that enough? Should there be a house rule regarding participation?

Bad Rolls

The party came upon a Froghemoth last session, and as all 16 HD monsters, it had pretty good saves against the Magic Users spells. That didn't stop me from publicly rolling bad and having my 116 HP creature be polymorphed into a small turtle. I don't think anyone thought that would work, but why not? By the stock chart there is a decent chance of success. Anyone think I should have fudged to prevent such an anti-climactic end?